This blog was inspired by Rachel Burnside
The Bible tells us that the righteous fall seven times and stands up eight. Now that’s what I call a bounce back. Think about it for a second, you got up more times than you fell down. You succeeded more times than you failed. To me, this is a very important life lesson and concept to understand. Truly being able to bounce back from failure or loss will allow you to be better prepared for what’s to come.
Learning to take a loss is something that I’ve learned a lot over the years. As an athlete, I was always told that you’d win some and lose some. During my time at Illinois, we lost most. But that’s beside the point. The thing about losing is that it leaves a very bitter feeling in you. You never want to feel it again and even do whatever to forget about it. But in order for that loss to become a lesson, you have to take the time and reflect on it.
Why did this happen? What could I have done differently? What are the learning points? Asking yourself these questions is necessary for your personal growth and development. How you deal with stressful situations and failure will reflect visibly to the people around you. Quarterbacks are taught in the game of football to have short-term memory when it comes to mistakes. Dwelling on these mistakes can greatly impact your performance, so it’s important that your confidence levels are always high.
There are two ways that you can take a loss. You can lose from it or learn from it. I say lose because that option is the choice of a true loser. If you’re not learning from your mistakes and failures, you are more susceptible to making them again. Being able to critically reflect on losses and failures will allow you to completely move on from the situation, knowing that you got out of it what you could.
I’ve lost over and over again. I’ve missed my turn, came up short and been rejected. How I dealt with all of those was by using it as a stepping stone for my future. I use it to propel me forward knowing that I will be better the next time. Acknowledge for your failures, learn from them and move on. You’ll never win the next game if you’re constantly worried about the last one. Keep your eyes on the prize.
I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.
~ Michael Jordan
Listen to ‘Keep On Pushing’ by Ausar and Isaiah G after an L.